Husbands and wives, time to tell where you belong!

If you’re not married yet, share this with a friend. If you are married, share it with your spouse or other married couples.. and reflect on it.

An African proverb states, “Before you get married, keep both eyes open, and after you marry, close one eye.”

Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don’t let lust, desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don’t fool yourself that you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren’t really important.

TYPES OF HUSBAND THEIR CHARACTER TRAITS 1 Bachelor Husband These are men who Love to do things on their own without consulting their wives Love to hang a lot with their friends rather than their wife. Not very serious with married life 2 Acidic Husband These are men who Are always boiling like acid Are always angry Are violent Moody and dominating They are very dangerous 3 Slave Husband These are men who Feel and want to be treated like kings Treat the wife like their slave Love their wife to be performing old tradition respect gesture to them Don’t like to be called by their first name 4 General Husband These are men who Are husband for every woman They love and care for other women a lot more than their own Even though not in relationship they like giving money to different women but not to their wife They have more female friends 5 Dry Husband These are men who Are very moody Are very stingy They don’t consider the wife’s emotions They don’t like putting energy in the relationship to make it enjoyable They don’t have any sense of humour     6 Panadol Husband These are men who Uses their wife as a problem solver Love their wife when they need something from her and after that she is useless to them Are very clever and knows their wife’s weakness and capitalize on them to get relief from their wife 7 Parasite Husband These are men who Are lazy and don’t love to work so they stick to their wife because of wife’s money Are very loving but uses wife money and resources to cheat her with their girlfriends Are not initiative and they don’t even try to help her with house responsibilities 8 Baby Husband These are men who They are very irresponsible and childish Can not make decision on their own without asking their mothers or relatives When something is wrong they rush back to their parents instead of discussing it with their wife Wants their wife to care for them as the way their mother did Who always compare their wife with their mother 9 Visiting Husband These are men who Are not always at home but usually at work They come home like they are visiting or like their home is a lodge Try hard to provide the material needs of their wife and family but they have no time for them 10 Good Husband These are men who Are caring and Loving Provide material and emotional needs of their family They always make time for their family They guide their home spiritually They are very responsible and treat their wife as a partner and a helper TYPES OF WIFE THEIR CHARACTER TRAITS 1 Party Wife These are women who Are very mobile and very sociable They are always attending one function after the other (every wedding, bridal and shower, kitchen top up, office functions etc) Are barely at home on weekends to have time with their husbands and family Can spend family food money on gifts 2 Dictionary Wife These are women who Don’t take suggestions: the way she thinks is the way it is The way she knows is the way it is be maintained – no changes Very orderly and became very angry when things are misplaced in their home set-up 3 Pampered Wife These are women who Very spoiled by their parents (normally from rich parents or their the only girl in the family of many boys) They are lazy, hardly do household work Love spending money shopping trivial girlish things Sees their husband like a houseboy 4 Office Wife These are women who Career minded that their family does not matter Are always using carrier as an excuse of not being at home for their family They don’t respect their husbands and makes educated women look bad Think a husband is not important because they can support themselves 5 Patient Wife These are women who Always look like they are sick and down trodden Love to complain on everything (husband, children, relatives even weather) Are always afraid and live in anxiety 6 Headmistress Wife These are women who Make themselves in-charge of the family even when the husband is a sole provider of the home Treat everyone as a child including their husband and visitors Are very questionable and will punish their husbands for any trivial things   7 Boxing Wife These are women who Are very offensive and sometimes can be violent They like shouting and they are nagging Believe in fire for fire 8 Dust bin Wife These are women who They are very dirt and unkempt Very unorganized and confused Very lazy at everything expect gossiping and eating Leaves everything to their servants or their children 9 Security Wife These are women who Very protective of their husband Very jealous, every woman seen as a threat Sees husbands friends as bad company Don’t let anyone discipline their child even a teacher Husband family and friends and workmate are scared of her 10 Good Wife These are women who Virtuous wife  (Proverbs 31) mmmh! Caring, loving and very smart Very helpful, they can even handle husband’s business in his absence Provide spiritual guidance to the children Very understanding and full of self-esteem

 

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time their flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious.

If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you’ve got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individuals who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best of each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control?

What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain?

You can’t take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can’t make someone love you or make someone stay. If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and “a life”, you won’t find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain. Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship.

Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.

What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humour, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note). Leave a nice message on their voicemail or send a nice email; Sharing common goals and interests.

Growth is important. Grow together, not away from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can’t always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don’t try to control one another. Learn each other’s family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless. Don’t put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion.

“Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you will never go any higher than you think.” The grass withers, the flowers fade, but the word of God stands forever. Isaiah 40:8 Shall we make a new rule of life from tonight.

Always  try to be a little kinder than is necessary. The difference between ‘United’ and ‘Untied’ is where you put the i.

Life is not measured by the number of breaths we take, but by the moments that take our breath away.

 

 

courtesy of RAO, AIHD.